A foundational element of NLP is the idea that we can attain mutually successful communication with others by respecting their model of the world. This is a willingness to try on other people’s perspectives. In essence, we see the world through their eyes.
We live on a planet with so many different societies and cultures. Within these are numerous kinds of subcultures, communities, social networks, families, economies, religions, spiritual paths...the list goes on and on. Respect is a way of honoring and accepting that each person we meet has developed their unique map of the world within all of these dynamic realities. Respect is honoring the numerous differences between us.
This idea is very profound. For what happens when we do this? We demonstrate to others that we have the ability to be flexible in our own thinking. We become relatable. This doesn’t mean that we must give up our own values. It does something much more effective. It opens the way for us to show others that we value and appreciate where they are coming from.
This kind of engagement creates rapport between people. When people see, feel, hear, sense, and know that their views and perspectives are acknowledged, they in turn are more likely to open themselves to your influence. Barriers, obstacles, resistance are all eliminated, or at least greatly reduced. Positive communication follows. Now there are more options for agreement. Now we have the opportunity to guide others into more resourceful states of being.